Is it okay to hit my brother or sister if they hit me first?

Denny answers:

Jesus said to turn the other cheek.

No, it is wrong to hit someone back just because they hit you - that's called revenge, and it's a sin. God says in the Bible that vengeance (that means revenge) belongs to only Him. You should always try to walk away and stop a fight, especially with your own family. If we can learn to get along with our family, we will probably be able to get along with nearly anyone else we meet! Try to get your brother or sister to talk out the problem with you. If that doesn't work, get a parent or adult's help.

God wants us to show other people love instead of hate. Jesus said that if someone hits you, you should turn the other cheek for them to hit. That doesn't mean you have to let someone beat you up, but it does mean that you should show kindness to those who try to hurt you. When people were beating Jesus and nailing Him to a cross, Jesus didn't get mad at them. Instead, He prayed "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing" (Luke 23:34). The people who were hurting Jesus didn't know that Jesus was God the Son who had come to earth to take the punishment for sinners by dying on the cross. Do you know and trust Jesus?

Bible Truth

Jesus said, "If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also" (Matthew 5:39).
"Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: 'It is mine to avenge; I will repay,' says the Lord. On the contrary: 'If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.' Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good" (Romans 12:17-21).

"My dear brothers and sisters, always be willing to listen and slow to speak. Do not become angry easily, because anger will not help you live the right kind of life God wants" (James 1:19-20, NCV).

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